A concept I learned in the military takes the Norman Legal system traditions and flips it on its head.  The legal system assumes people to be innocent until proven guilty.  Prosecutors have to prove  guilt “beyond reasonable doubt”.  But how…

Abusive and neglect rewrite the human brain.  That does not stop just because a culture thinks it is ok.  Women cannot get together and decide “single motherhood isn’t harmful anymore” when the ACES research shows something is an adverse experience. …

Motherhood is not graded on a bell curve.  A mother making reckless decisions that lead to her children having even one ACE they could have reasonably prevented should consider herself as failing at motherhood.  Same with the men reading this…

Why is it when someone tries to improve society for the better they are often attacked from multiple angles?  One would understand why severely abusive and neglectful women would be hostile to the work.   But why is there likely to…

There are a lot of emotional competencies that people can learn through life.  All of the emotional competences people learn at school, work, or doing sports are portable to being a parent.  You just have to see being a caring…

Many people are raised with personal or cultural values that once they evaluate them don’t really make sense.  They may have mistaken good for bad and bad for good. They may have decades of bad habits to unlearn once they…

Many people may read this work and see its validity.  They want to apply it to their lives but think they cannot take action.  Their kid are too old.  A woman who used neglectful amounts of non-maternal day care never…

It is not possible society will change overnight.  There are too many stakeholders in the Maternal Neglect Industry for it to be so easy. It is going to take a lot of effort to go against the Maternal Neglect Industry.  As…

Below are the 19 tactics to avoid change that neglectful and abusive people use to avoid change. I have edited some of the titles to make them clearer because it helps people keep them distinct. As this is a blog…

Time to smack to ideas together. Daniel Goleman’s Working with Emotional Intelligence highlighted bright people with lacking careers because they focused on their intellectual strengths and did not develop their social skills.  Mr. Goleman recommendation was people improve their ability…