There is something about averages outcomes and people that make people “forget” almost everything they have been taught about logic and statistics.  If you point out the average man is taller than the average woman many people can accept that without issue.  Sure, there may be an tall woman that is taller than the average man.   There are plenty of men that is shorter than the average woman.  We know this due to how unempathetic and cruel women are in mocking short men. All this happens without genetic disorders or stunted growth from malnutrition. 

The problems occur when we discuss averages around painful truths.  If we talk about the average adversity someone with a high ACE score has the flock will instinctually look for the outlier.  They want to focus on the highly functional high ACE person.  Also, some people engage in high-risk behaviors and then go on to have ACE 0 kids.  But the average person is not a outlier and not everyone can overcome their risk factors.  You are Superoptimistic to seek out high- risk behaviors and not expect some of the negative effects of them.

A woman with a high-risk history should expect to be treated as high risk.  That means that she is less viable as a future wife and mother than a woman that was prudent.  Failure to understand that very simple conclusion is often combined with some serious grandiose thinking and is a literal sign of psychopathy.