Abusive and neglect rewrite the human brain.  That does not stop just because a culture thinks it is ok.  Women cannot get together and decide “single motherhood isn’t harmful anymore” when the ACES research shows something is an adverse experience.  They can’t decide when a mom beats her kid it isn’t traumatic but when a dad does it is definitely bad.  Women can’t decide that their codependent sabotage, emotional incest or literal incest isn’t harmful either.  Women lack the ability to factually redefine abuse and neglect as “progress.”