Key Concepts
There is a concept in substance abuse and relapse called the Seemingly Unimportant Decision (SUDS). A superficially innocent decision really was the smallest domino in a chain reaction into relapsing into substance abuse. For us, SUDS are the decisions that…
Key Concepts
There are some things that are foundationally true. When people learn a Foundational Facts they don’t like they often try and find some way to undermine that fundamental truth as overly simplistic. They then try and complicate the matter so…
Key Concepts
It literally is impossible for a woman to be an Abusive and Neglectful partner and still be a good mother. The idea that is even possible is mental gymnastics of the worst kind and uses the SuperOptimism thinking error. If…
Key Concepts
A concept I learned in the military takes the Norman Legal system traditions and flips it on its head. The legal system assumes people to be innocent until proven guilty. Prosecutors have to prove guilt “beyond reasonable doubt”. But how…
Key Concepts
Abusive and neglect rewrite the human brain. That does not stop just because a culture thinks it is ok. Women cannot get together and decide “single motherhood isn’t harmful anymore” when the ACES research shows something is an adverse experience. …
Key Concepts
Motherhood is not graded on a bell curve. A mother making reckless decisions that lead to her children having even one ACE they could have reasonably prevented should consider herself as failing at motherhood. Same with the men reading this…
Key Concepts
Why is it when someone tries to improve society for the better they are often attacked from multiple angles? One would understand why severely abusive and neglectful women would be hostile to the work. But why is there likely to…
Key Concepts
There are a lot of emotional competencies that people can learn through life. All of the emotional competences people learn at school, work, or doing sports are portable to being a parent. You just have to see being a caring…
Key Concepts
Many people are raised with personal or cultural values that once they evaluate them don’t really make sense. They may have mistaken good for bad and bad for good. They may have decades of bad habits to unlearn once they…
Key Concepts
Many people may read this work and see its validity. They want to apply it to their lives but think they cannot take action. Their kid are too old. A woman who used neglectful amounts of non-maternal day care never…