Defining Terms and Scope of the article

This article about maternal abuse and neglect is going to focus on integrity vis-à-vis the emotional intelligence skill self-awareness. To do this we will focus on the self-awareness subcomponents of emotional awareness and accurate self-assessment.    As we discuss emotional intelligence and differences between women’s professional and personal self, we are going to also have to touch on her ability to self-regulate her emotions because you have to be aware of your emotions to decide how to regulate them.

Service-orientation is anticipating and responding to people’s needs. People can use this to keep their boss, coworker and clients satisfied at work or do the same with family. A woman with a high service-orientation at work but low service orientation at home is directly tied to her maternal abuse and neglect. Women without a service orientation to family obviously are going to be poor mothers. In the emotional intelligence framework service-orientation is a part of Empathy, so people whose behaviors show more motivation in using service-orientation at work than home are showing you they have less empathy for their family members. Actions speak louder than words. A lack of integrity rand motivation results a lack of service orientation and to family and abuse and neglect. The opposite of integrity is fecklessness.

Accurate self-assessment helps people recognize the limitations that hold them back from thriving in their relationships, both personal and professional.   They can look at their emotions and behaviors to see where their motivations really are then decided how they are going to self-regulate. An emotionally intelligent person can change their motivations by thought and practice so they can thrive and strive towards their goals.

By definition thriving people are not neglectful and abusive to themselves and others[1].  People’s actions have social ripple effects.  People with accurate self-assessment know to what extent their actions ripple.  They are not so self-centered they ignore their actions or think everything is a result of their own actions.

Emotional awareness is not just accurately knowing what your emotions are in the moment or in past moments.  It is knowing how your emotions provide a window into your soul. This window helps you know what your values and expectations truly are.

Integrity simply means that you are honest and truthful in what you say or do. You put honesty, sense of duty, and sound moral principles above all else.  It seems simple but most people don’t have a sense of duty or sound moral principles.  These subjects are going to be constantly revisited throughout the blog.

What is Beyond this Article’s Scope

Bad advice or misinformation can seriously misled people.  This is especially true if people are too trusting.  They fail to realize that much of the advice people give is not given for the recipient’s best interest. It is given in the interest of the person giving the advice.  As a principal-agent problem: when the principal asks for advice the agent gives them bad advice because it benefits the agent.  Things get even messier when a feckless principal asks for advice wanting the agent to pander to them and agent is more than willing to pander.

For example, a website that panders to feckless mothers is going to get more traffic than a frank website.  When a mother of integrity tries to research what constitutes abuse and neglect she may not realize what she found.  People of integrity become repulsed someone is pandering to them. It means thy have been mistaken as feckless someone is trying to misled them.

The honestly misled woman is beyond the scope of this article. But the feckless woman that wants pandering advice is definitely within the scope of this article.