It literally is impossible for a woman to be an Abusive and Neglectful partner and still be a good mother.  The idea that is even possible is mental gymnastics of the worst kind and uses the SuperOptimism thinking error.  If you happen to observe a woman that is Abusive and Neglectful to the men in her live you can assume she is getting away with worse in private. Assuming that women can behave narcissistically or psychopathically with men but not their children borders on insane.