Society Needs Trauma Informed Women

I have come to the conclusion that society needs trauma informed women. I have also come to the conclusion that the vast majority of women do not want to be trauma informed. They do not want to give up their anti-social values. They complain their anti-social behavior habits are too strong to break.

Why am I so jaded? A fair question. The short answer is I have seen so many of women, my peers in my job field, receive all of the training I did and do next to nothing to apply it on the job or with their families. Often they are deeply resentful that they would use any of the work skills they learn to improve their family lives.

What about trauma informed men?

What about the men? you may ask. From what I have seen men are, on average, instinctually, more trauma informed than women. They have more emotional intelligence than women and they are less neglectful and abusive than women. From my personal experiences they are more excited than women to use the tools they learn as husbands and fathers. Those are assertions I plan on backing up as I role the blog out. Some things to consider that I will expound upon as this blog develops

• The vast majorities of divorces are filed by women as no-fault divorce. Having parents separated or divorced is an adverse childhood experience for children.
• The research coming out of the Prison Rape Elimination Act shows that female staff are disproportionate offenders of the act, committing acts of sexual violence at much higher rates than men
• The annual Child Maltreatment Reports put out by the United States Département of Health and Social Services perpetually shows women perform more acts of maltreatment than men. This is true even when accounting for disparate custody arrangements.

It is not popular to talk about how men and women have different bodies and that leads to different roles in parenting. The idea that parenting is gender neutral needs to be confronted then thrown in the trash. No man ever neglected his child by not breastfeeding but plenty of mothers do. If you are a mother and you wonder why you can’t act like a father you have some gender issues that contribute to maternal abuse and neglect. You have some very anti-social expectations.

Back to women

Lets consider just one issue of maternal neglect (and not paternal neglect) and how widespread so many women are lacking Ing in Trauma Informed Care: Most women provide a neglectful amount of non-maternal daycare. The research against working mothers has been clear: many of you are neglectful. Your behavior causes lasting damage to your daughters and your sons.

I am going to post psychoeducational articles showing what is an excessive amount of daycare and refute the shoddy research that supports excessive non-maternal daycare. Many a women may sputter: what about non-paternal day care? If they do so they show how they are not trauma informed.

Using SAMSHA to help us define a trauma informed woman

The Substance Abuse Mental Health Agency is a United States government body whose goals are to, of course, address substance abuse and mental health issues in the United States. I am not one to reinvent the wheel. They have recommendations on how to be trauma informed. I am going to show you the steps I took in adapting their recommendations to create my vision of a trauma informed woman.

That is really easy to understand. It is also really defensible. After all, who wants to be the degenerate that re-traumatizes people? Also, doesn’t it take very little training to recognize the signs of trauma? Who would be so lazy as to avoid that? Especially if it could benefit the children?

Here is the SAMSHA Trauma Informed Care framework applied to Maternal Abuse and Neglect: simply, a society that is trauma informed by definition has to Realizes, Recognizes, Response to and Resists Maternal Neglect at the hands of all women for every child.

It is really easy to “CTRL-F” and replace “trauma” with “maternal abuse and neglect” in a document, but it is much harder to do that in a society. So many women have built women as a whole up as the fairer sex that they are hostile to efforts to focus on maternal abuse and neglect. They are compelled by the modern feminine zeitgeist to defend the flock.

Trauma Informed Motherhood

Trauma Informed Motherhood both men and women Realizes, Recognizes, Response to and Resists Maternal Abuse and Neglect. How to have widespread trauma informed motherhood? Developing the concept is the purpose of the blog and will take concepts ranging far and wide, from Emotional Intelligence, Marine Corps Leadership Principles and Marine Corps Leadership Traits and knowledge Adverse Childhood Experience Survey. It will look common barriers to change, like Thinking Errors and Tactics to Avoid Change.

There are already trauma informed mothers out there. But often they are considered regressive, left over dinosaurs of a bygone area. Many men understand this idea already after suffering at the hands of our mothers. Modern women find themselves committing the same moral crimes as their mothers and that clouds their judgement.

Some notes on Adverse Childhood Experiences and Neglect

The Adverse Childhood Experiences research is seminal and foundational to modern interest in trauma. But it is not the end-all be-all of trauma. It is a very solid starting point to addressing traumatic events, but we should not limit the discussion of trauma to something that isn’t on the ACES survey. We should also not ignore a situation because it has not met the threshold for trauma. If something is acutely stressful, immoral, and avoidable we should address it.